It’s been a wild ride, literally! Part 1

I know I said in my last post that this would likely turn into an annual update blog. I did not intend for it to be this long but here we are. I cannot even imagine trying to write out everything that has gone on the last 2 years but I will summarize to the best of my abilities!

Wow, where to even begin. This will definitely have to be broken up into a few posts as there has been so much that has happened. I am going to have to heavily rely on Google photos and Maps to write this accurately. My last post was in early May of 24, we had traveled throughout the Yucatan and made plans to drive from our home in Puerto Aventuras (Just south of Playa del Carmen) to Washington to explore more of Mexico, see friends and family and then hit national parks on the way home. It was (mostly) a resounding success! We set off on May 23rd thoroughly prepared with front and rear dash cams, emergency car repair kits, a spreadsheets, anticipation, optimism, excitement and a healthy amount of fear since we had never taken a car trip this long, especially through a country we were not that familiar with.

THIS was going to be the trip of a lifetime. We had arranged home exchanges and pet sits along the way and to be honest, we spent more money in toll costs than we did in gas and accommodations combined. We stopped in Campeche to enjoy some stone crab at Lisa’s favorite restaurant, La Pigua. After a good nights sleep, we continued on to Villahermosa. I will say that was, without a doubt (that is saying a lot given what happened later..) the most sketchy part of the trip as it was a 2 lane highway. If you have ever driven in Mexico, it isn’t about how many lanes are on the road as it is how many cars can fit. After a harrowing, anxiety attack producing several hours, we were seriously questioning our life choices. Traffic was horrendous- Semi trucks were coming into oncoming traffic, we were trying to stay on the road while dodging moto bikes, tuk tuks and people on bikes as well as pedestrians who were on the highway. To this day, we truly do not understand how no one was injured that day. After a good nights sleep and some food, we made the decision to keep going. (Tip, never take the 180d through Villahermosa and Campeche if you can at all avoid it!) We traveled from Villahermosa to the town of Catemaco. I was not familiar with this town when I picked the route, it just seemed to fit what we were looking for on an off the beaten path, lets explore Mexico, location. It turns out that Catemaco is the Witchcraft capital of Mexico. It hosts the Congreso Nacional de Brujos the first Friday of March. Their tradition of sorcery/witchcraft is rooted in the pre-colonial period and is mostly practiced by men. This tradition is well-known in Mexico and attracts clients from various walks of life, including businessmen and national-level politicians. We had a fabulous 3 night stay at a locals resort (aka no gringos) called La Finca . Besides a fairly significant language barrier, we hit it off with a local family who was there on their summer vacation and it was an amazing cultural experience all the way around. The picture below is of the lagoon in Catemaco, taken from our room.

We knew that we were not going to be able to see and hit all of the places we wanted to on the trip out of Mexico so we allotted more time for exploration in Mexico on the trip home. The next 7 days included stops in Puebla, where we discovered the most amazing dish, Mole Poblano, native to Puebla. It is nothing like any mole we had tried before and we thoroughly enjoyed ourselves with mole tasting menus during our short stop there. Onward to Queretaro for a one night stay before hitting Matehuala then onto Monclova for the last stop before crossing the border at Eagles Pass. We had been purchasing gas prior to going to the hotels for the evening just as an extra safety measure as we had heard about people being followed from gas stations on the highway and we didn’t need to stop just yet. We made such good time on the road that we decided to skip Matehaula and go straight to Monclova, a few cities city over, so we had more time to cross into the States the next day.

This is where we erred. Our best friend from Puerto Aventuras had told us not to drive that weekend, it was just before the elections and there had been some showboating from the local cartel. They wanted to ensure whoever was elected knew they had no intentions of changing their agendas. With the exception of the nail biting strip to Villahermosa, the trip had been flawless and we were comfortable trying to get to Eagles Pass sooner than later as we were concerned about crossing in the dark. When the decision was made it was the middle of the day, we had plenty gas and sunlight left and wanted to make the most of it. We arrived in Monclova without issue, gassed up and stayed at a quaint hotel that offered Sunday brunch. It continued to be a very positive experience and brunch was great. A man we could only guess was Jefe (Boss) of the town came to the restaurant and was greeted loudly by every one there, in tow, was a young boy, likely his grandson, who stared and pointed at Lisa. His grandfather quickly corrected him, we found it quite funny. I am fairly certain he had never seen a true gringo with blonde hair before.

After brunch, we hopped in the car, headed towards the boarder with our Sentri cards in hand, confident we would be in Texas in just a few hours. As soon as we approached what would be the last gas station in Monclova, Lisa started yelling. I couldn’t really wrap my head around what I was seeing, all I could hear was her yelling, go faster, GO FASTER! GO FASTER! Right in front of us, several men had pulled over on the side of the road with ski masks on and another truck had parked horizontally to block the northbound side of the road. They were armed with automatic assault riffles and were pointing at oncoming traffic. Despite not comprehending what I was seeing, I punched it and we were able to drive around them and were not followed. We intentionally bought the car that we did and installed the front and back dash cameras for a reason. We were not what they were looking for. It was an absolute horrifying experience and while I pushed our little CR-V to the limit for a good hour afterwards, we were being passed by large, lifted trucks from Texas, which I could only imagine, were the targets. After regaining some level of confidence that we were in the clear, I had Lisa play back the video, I was really still in disbelief as to what we saw. Guess what? No video. The camera stopped recording about 3 seconds before we came across them. They had a ?? Something that interrupted the camera and prevented it from recording. It was truly an unbelievable experience and when someone from Mexico gives you advice about driving, take it!

We made it to the town of Piedras Negras about 3 hours before sunset. Bridge 1, the only one of two that had Sentri access lanes, was completely closed due to an accident. It took 30 minutes to go 1 mile, the sun was setting and people trying to cross the border were becoming more and more aggressive and agitated. Given this was on the heels of what had just happened, it was understandable that a lot of those people, ourselves included, could not wait to get to the other side. We finally made it to the checkpoint well after sunset and had no issues crossing the border, the agent was quite nice and luckily, didn’t send us for secondary inspection despite having a car load of stuff. We spent the night in Eagles Pass, reflecting on how lucky and how stupid we were at the same time.

Thinking about a road trip through Mexico? I HIGHLY recommend joining the Facebook group, On the road in Mexico. It was a tremendously helpful resource.

Next stop, Colombia

Though not why you would think. I have been extremely inspired over the last year or so to really listen to my inner voice and pay attention to what the Universe is trying to tell me . We had put an offer in on a house that we didn’t love but thought it would be a good investment. After a few bumps, and the sellers thinking they should have listed it for more, we walked away from it. We had already said that we would accept what was meant to be and clearly, that purchase wasn’t it.

Since I have almost always been self employed, I have no pension. I have a few small retirement accounts but nothing huge. My retirement plan has always been to sell my home and downsize. The falling through of our most recent financial venture has spurred some pretty interesting ideas. Kids are almost all grown, I am not getting any younger, I would like to retire from my rather emotionally draining and somewhat PTSD triggering , though very rewarding and at times, cathartic, career while I still have some physical get up and go and certainly before I end up being totally jaded and dead inside. I would also like to finish my second book but have decided I can’t tackle that while in my current profession. Lisa is almost at her 30 year mark at work, shes been there since she was 20. I’m sure you see where I am going with this.

We have decided to check out what Colombia has to offer us as expats. We are going to visit the Caribbean coast of Colombia from Cartagena to Santa Marta in November. Nothing has been decided yet, obviously, but my research on Colombia has proven to be very promising. It is very easy to obtain a resident visa, their universal health care is quite good, they even have a Johns Hopkins hospital in Bogotoa. The WHO ranks Colombia #22 in the world, easily beating out the USA at #37. Oh, and it is cheap. Really cheap. The cost of living index in Santa Marta is 74 compared to 196 in Seattle. If you were interested in buying a 2/2 new condo on the beach in Santa Marta, you could do so for about $100,000 USD, about 3.2m COP . The Colombian Peso is very weak against the dollar and has been for years.

This blog is all about living life to the fullest and this is me, putting my money where my mouth is. For those of you who are wondering about the safety of Colombia, the days of Pablo Escobar are long over. Sure, there are places you probably should go alone or after dark but that is true even in my little town in the PNW. The Government in Colombia is set up very similarly to the US-three branches of government, a democracy, an elected president, etc. Colombia has a tragic history but it is one of the most beautiful,safe, and biodiverse countries in the world. It is also one of the best countries for Expats, continually ranking in the top 10 according to International Living, beating out Spain and Portugal. Colombia is one of the most LGBTQ friendly countries in Latin America and same sex marriage has been legal in Colombia since 2016.

Ahhh the Riviera Maya..

This vacation went down as the first one where I actually did not want to come home. If you are anything like me, you may have kids, a pet, a house, or even just a bed calling your name back home. Forget the job calling- that’s why we need a vacation to start with! And get this, Lisa (for those who don’t know, Lisa is my wife) had never been to Mexico! She was the inspiration behind this trip.

So, our last minute vacation plan started just a few weeks ago with the mention from Lisa that she wanted to take a couple of days off for her birthday. She works hard and long hours and has for close to 30 years. When I met Lisa, she was working about 12-14 hours a day and hadn’t taken any vacation to speak of in decades. She works so much that she can no longer accrue paid time off from work because she never uses it! This madness had to stop! Since we became a couple, Lisa has traveled more in the last few years than she has in her whole life. I am fortunate enough that I have a great group of colleagues who can hold down things at work for me if I don’t have anything big scheduled, which I did not. I also have a good relationship with my ex-husband who willingly keeps the dog and kids in check while I’m gone. I digress, I am the queen of digression so if that sort of thing bothers you, you might want to stop reading now 🙂 Back to birthday plans… She suggested a day or two to the hot springs or maybe a trip to the spa. At the sheer notion that she was willing to take ANY time off, I seized the opportunity. Hey babe, what about Mexico? You’ve never been, I have a ton of miles to use, it’s your birthday, we didn’t really have a honeymoon…. I would bet money that her bosses don’t think I am that positive influence on her.

Traveling as a lesbian couple can be tricky. One of the first things I do when looking to travel is research LGBTQ friendliness in the country we are going to and then identify resorts, excursions,etc. You wouldn’t think in this day and age but those issues are still very prevalent. And I want to be clear, this blog/post isn’t about being a same sex couple. We are just humans like the rest of you but it is something that needs to be considered when travelling abroad. You can probably imagine that there isn’t much need for research when it comes to Mexico aka MexiPlay. The customer service and general attitudes of locals are beyond welcoming no matter who you are. And for those of you who are interested, same sex activity has been legal in Mexico since 1871. Most of the states within Mexico recognize same sex marriages.

Moving along… Lisa’s few days off turned into an 8 night all inclusive adults only stay at the Royal Hideaway Playacar and IT WAS FABULOUS. Customer service was top notch, the room was wonderful, the flight was great, (we love Alaska! Never fly Allegiant btw, especially if you are a same sex couple. )
the food was out of this world. We had an excursion to Tulum and Jungle Maya where we experienced a Mayan blessing ceremony, rappelled into a Cenote, zip lined through the jungle and overall just had the best day of our lives. I underwent ankle fusion surgery 3.5 months ago so my I wasn’t sure of my abilities but was pleasantly surprised. The only black mark on our trip was Pro Dive International- you can read more about that terrible experience here if you’d like. Nonetheless, the dive that we did do at Planacar Reef was spectacular. I have been a certified diver for several years but Lisa just got her OWD certification in November in Maui. She is sold on Mexico and swears we will never go back to Hawaii again. Gosh, twist my arm.

I am so grateful I got to share all of this with her. The woman who has dedicated her life to her work is finally putting her own regulator on and diving into life. BBYODO

Life is short

No really, people say it all the time. It’s not some paradox that needs to be examined. According to a 2015 study published by the WHO, the average age of death for a woman in the USA is 81. I’m not going to say life expectancy because those final days (months, years?) for many people and their families is anything but life.

What being, “brave,” means is unique to each individual. For some it means pushing outside their comfort zone enough to say hello to a stranger on the street. To others, it can be jumping from an airplane and everything in between. What is important in this journey is that you do what you feel makes you brave, not others. If it feels slightly uncomfortable, then you’re doing it right. Bravery isn’t a title given to someone who’s a scuba instructor, a skydiver, or an 8th grade science teacher. For those people, that is every day life. What might make them uncomfortable (and brave) could be trying the new special of the day at their favorite restaurant. It’s stepping outside your comfort zone to experience all that life has to offer. It’s pretty simple, no risk, no reward.

This blog is for my fellow humans who want a little more from life. I hope to share my adventures and inspirations with you so that you too may never look back at the end and have more regrets than life experiences.

Salud